23rd December 2011
From wedding feast to global business – never under-estimate the Parsi influence for good in Mumbai
I was fortunate recently to attend my first ever Parsi wedding. Two of the 40 or so Parsi staff in the Deputy High Commission in Mumbai, Nazneen (our press officer) and Burzin ( a member of the UKBA team), were getting married, and they had been kind enough to invite my wife and me to their wedding.
There are many contrasts with a typical UK wedding. First there were far more people – about 700 – than most people in the UK would normally invite but Indian festive occasions extend beyond the immediate family and friends of the couple to include the social and business obligations of parents and siblings on both sides. The couple are married on a dais after which all the guests go up to meet and greet them individually.” Then there is food, and lots of it! The food is served on a large banana leaf – I had never realised, until I saw mine covered with delicious fish, chicken, rice and much more, how big a banana leaf is! Afterwards, and perhaps this is the biggest difference with Britain, most of the guests depart without so much as one speech: something many people might welcome in the UK.
The Parsis have kept these traditions, and many more, ever since they first emigrated to India from Iran centuries ago. During the wedding the couple went to a nearby “Fire Temple” to pray. These are so named because a fire burns in them eternally as it represents purity, being the only element that cannot be contaminated. In continuance to the original vow made when they first sought refuge in India, Fire Temples admit only Parsis. Pheroza Godrej, who edited a superb book on the origins and development of Bombay, has produced a magnificently illustrated History of the Parsis. I can’t claim to have read it, but it is a labour of love and meticulous research, which wowed some recent visitors from Europe at her home.
The Parsis have a wholly disproportionate influence in Mumbai and India compared to their tiny population. Globally there are probably no more than 120,000, with the largest group outside Mumbai in Toronto.
The Parsi influence was underlined shortly after the wedding I attended by an announcement by the Tata Group – India’s largest business conglomerate, and of course with major interests in the UK, including JLR and Corus – that they were appointing as their next chair a Parsi, Cyrus Mistry. Tata was founded by a Parsi, Jamshyd Tata, who was brought up in the small, dusty trading town of Navsari on the Gujarat coast. He started a steel business in Eastern India, and from there his successors as Chairmen– Parsis all – have built the company into the $78bn megalith it is today.
There are other powerful business groups in India with Parsi owners, including the massive consumer and industrial goods manufacturer Godrej, and smaller companies like Pune-based Forbes Marshall and Thermax.
But the Parsi influence goes way beyond business. Tata have some of the most well-endowed Foundations and Institutes in India, and a significant proportion of the Group’s profits are ploughed under its constitution into these charitable organisations. It is no exaggeration to say that many of Mumbai’s most valuable research organisations, hospitals and cultural centres (for example the vibrant National Centre for the Performing Arts, run by a Parsi, Khushroo Suntook, formerly a senior Tata executive) could not survive without Tata, Godrej or other Parsi generosity.
So from a banana leaf feast to the next head of global giant Tata the Parsi influence continues to hold great sway in Mumbai.
Parsi weddings are indeed lavish affairs. At the same time , the wastage observed is not too nice to watch. A huge number of courses are served and the recent trend is that one dish of say, fish , chicken, mutton and rice will not be considered enough and each one will be served in two or three different styles. This does not even take into account the many starters and the winding up with an array of icecreams and sweet dishes. No one can possibly eat so much at one go and this seems wastefulness in its extreme. Apart from that, the rest of the evening is there to be enjoyed with the beautifully decorated stage where the marriage of the bridal couple is performed and the compound which is wonderfully lighted and decorated with “Torans” and other potted plants is a delight to watch with the quaint and lovely customs that accompany it. . Everyone is always very eager to attend a Parsi Wedding and more so for the sumptious feast that is to follow.
Glad to read about a parsi wedding – I have a couple of Indian friends who had mentioned it. I love the idea of leaving without making a speech.
Reading this article brings back fond memories of my time spent at DHL Worldwide Express, which until 2003 was a 100% owned division of Airfreight Ltd, headed by Mr Cyrus Guzder, a Parsi gentleman par excellence. I made many Parsi friends while working for DHL and cherish them to this date.
Great first impression of the parsi wedding. I love his observation about Parsis coming meeting and leaving the wedding after having dinner without making a speech!
I hope Peter makes many more parsi friends.so that he can keep coming back to Mumbai when his term is up.
I have many Parsi friends, though I am a non-parsi. They are absolutely brilliant, beautiful people. I find them to be honest, kind, loving and so much fun. I look forward to eah of my visits to Mumbai.=!!!
Very well written & said….. some of the most remarkable statements I have read from a non-parsi……. Hats Off !!!!
“because a fire burns in them eternally as it represents purity, being the only element that cannot be contaminated. In continuance to the original vow made when they first sought refuge in India, Fire Temples admit only Parsis”.
FOOD for Thought !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Very enjoyable article! Amazing how a small community like ours has thrown up 40 of the staffers for the Deputy High Commission!
Very interesting article. Parsi’s like the Sindhis have always been good enterpreneurs. Cobra Beer in UK was founded by Lord Karan Bilimoria who is also a Parsi.
Interesting, I had no idea of the Parsi influence within Indian business — perhaps learning more about their culture is indeed prudent! Good article
Every time something new surprises me in their weddings. That’s why I love to walk on Indian weddings.